As Christians, We are not called to have a proud spirit that promotes self-centeredness and selfish desires, and being around such people is negative and draining. Here are 10 effective prayers for a narcissist.
Pride is one reason people don’t feel like they need a saviour or forgiveness. Pride tells them that they are a “good” person or that they have a “good” heart. Pride also blinds people to their own personal responsibility and responsibility for sin. Narcissism (pride) masks sin, while the gospel reveals the truth that leads to remorse for sin. Narcissistic traits can be dangerous because, at worst, they will lead a person to destroy others to satisfy the desires of the flesh (2 Timothy 3:2-8).
10 Effective Prayers for a Narcissist
Below are 10 effective prayers for a narcissist to overcome the spirit of narcissism.
Prayer for Wisdom in Confronting a Narcissist
Wise Counselor, I pray for Your wisdom as I confront my loved one, Jesus. He has given in to every whim of selfish desire and has become a narcissist. I need the right words to say when I speak to him, Jesus, to show him the folly of his ways. Use me as Your vessel and speak Your truth through me in a way that he will understand. Open his spiritual ears so that Your message convicts him of his sinfulness and he repents. In Your all-knowing name, I pray, Amen.
Prayer for Guidance About Whether to Stay or Walk Away
Precious Holy Spirit, please quiet my mind so I can hear Your whispers. I want to rest in Your peace and see Your path for my life. I have been vulnerable and hurt over and over by someone who only loves and worships himself. I have been used. I have been trampled upon. Speak to me, Holy Spirit. Tell me if I should continue praying for the patience and strength to stay in this relationship. Or tell me if I should break off our connection and stop the harm caused by his arrogant, controlling, and belittling behaviour. I surrender to You. I am in Your hands. Amen.
Prayer for Witnessing to a Narcissist
Abba, Father, fill me with faithfulness so I may be an example of humility to my loved one. He has clearly shown that he is a narcissist. Lord, please help me live my life in such a way as to testify to the power of Your goodness and grace. Help me to be humble, gentle, and patient. Help me to decrease, Lord, and You to increase in this situation. Work through me to make my loved one see the error of his ways and seek Your will for his life. Use me to remind him that it was You who created hundreds of billions of galaxies. It was You that multiplied loaves of bread and fish out of thin air. It was You who parted the Red Sea and who brings the dead to life. Through Your mighty power, use me as Your vessel to show him Your majesty, Father. Use me as Your instrument to show him that You are in control of his life. Amen.
Prayer for a Narcissist
All-Powerful Father, I pray for those who are battling narcissism in their lives. Help them overcome, by the power of the cross, their prideful focus on themselves. Help them to see that there is so much more this world has to offer than just caring about themselves. Help them to understand that they are not putting God first in their lives. When Your Son called the crowd to Him with his disciples, He said that if anyone would come after Him, let them deny himself and take up his cross and follow Him. Speak to them, Father, and show them that there is more to gain in following You than in seeking what this world has to offer. Only You can reveal the ultimate good that can free them, Lord. Please help them now. Amen.
Prayer for Salvation for a Narcissist
O God of my Salvation, I pray that You save my loved one. He is so focused on himself, Lord, that he believes the world truly revolves around him. Help me not to judge him, Lord, but to earnestly pray for his salvation. Only You can save his soul and save him from himself, Lord. You say that the pride of life is not from the Father but is from the world. Humble him, Lord. You say that people will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths. Give him ears to hear, Lord. Stop him from changing what he says is Your truth to suit himself. In Your grace and mercy, open his eyes to his misguided ways and lead him in the path of righteousness. Amen.
Prayer for a Narcissist Husband
Oh, Jesus, my Great Healer, I pray for my husband. He is no longer the person I married. He has been consumed by love for himself. He really is a narcissist, Jesus. Everything is all about him. He no longer cares about the children. He shuts down everything I say and doesn’t even consider it for one minute. The only way our marriage will survive is if You act, Jesus. You say you will tear down the house of the proud. Show him how low he has sunk and pull him up out of the filth of his self-centeredness. Give him ears to listen to Your life-giving reproof so that he despises himself. Fill him with the fear of You, mighty Savior. In Your healing name, I pray, Amen.
Prayer for Forgiving a Narcissist
Merciful and compassionate Lord, You say not to judge. You say not to condemn. You say we should forgive. Grant me the strength to do these things, Lord. My friend steamrolls me every time I see him. All he thinks about is himself. Help me to see that the problem is bigger than our friendship because he is dealing with an actual illness with his narcissism. Guide me on how to put the hurt he has caused behind me. Fill me with Your grace so that I may walk in Your image and be good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love for my friend who is suffering from this affliction. Show me how to be kind and tenderhearted towards him. Amen.
Prayer for Curing Someone’s Narcissism
Jesus, the Great Physician, You say that we should do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. You say that to fear the Lord is to hate pride and arrogance. My loved one is a narcissist, and I pray that You do the impossible and cure him. Show him just how hollow and empty the self-centered life really is. Give him the remedy of humility and grace he needs. Teach him to forsake himself and seek what is best for others rather than what is best for himself. Jesus, You were the perfect example of humility and I believe You can change my loved one’s heart, even now. In Your healing name, I pray, Amen.
Prayer When Ending Relationship with Narcissist
Lord Jehovah, Self-Existent One, someone I care about is a narcissist. You say that we should not be doormats, and I know I cannot let myself continue to be trampled upon. Give me the courage to sever the relationship and the peace of mind to know that I am doing the right thing. Please heal the hurt he has caused me, and so many others, my healing Savior. I trust that he is in Your almighty hands, Lord. Please protect all those around him from the harm and destruction he causes. I believe in You, Lord. Amen.
Prayer for Grace for the Sake of Family Unity
God of blessing, I pray that You protect our family unit and grant us a large portion of grace. We are struggling with how to deal with our narcissistic loved one, and he is harming our family. He is always belittling us and cares only about himself. Open his eyes and help him to see the error of his ways. Purify our hearts so that we glorify You in all that we think, say, and do. Fill our hearts with joy despite the wreckage he creates. Unite the rest of us and help him to join our unity when he has been restored. Amen.